What Questions Can You Live Without Answering?
What questions cue your curiosity so much that it would be unpleasant to not pursue possible answers to those questions?
Maybe a good exercise, to learn more about yourself, is to make a list of all the questions you would still very much like to know more about. Sometimes, the questions that still intrigue us are questions that reveal us.
I Cannot Agree With Robert Frost
I did not choose paths because they were less traveled by;
Rather, when two roads have diverged in a wood, I’ve been boring by comparison
And taken the paths those around me decided might be good enough
I miss the http://theinkbrain.wordpress.com/ and look forward to the next post. The care put into that blog’s posts raises the bar for most other blog writers.
Conversations With Images
I learned this week that I have conversations with pictures
And that I’ve always had conversations with pictures
Silently talking to the images in front of me
Talking to the artists
Talking to the past, past ideas, past perceptions, past priorities
Questioning their choices, the content, the boundaries, the limitations, the broken “rules”
These “conversations” have been important to me for decades, but I did not realize it until recently
Pictures have secretly, and not-so-secretly, always been having conversations with us
That’s one of the reasons they have so often been censored
What Is A Common Difference Between A Memoir And A Novel?
A memoir is more often about a specific person. A novel is more often about many people.
Keys To Keeping Conversations Ongoing
I would like to be a better conversationalist, so I checked out these 7 books from the library yesterday, to see what I could learn:
I’ll let you know if I find ideas worth more consideration. So far, in scanning the above books, I’ve come across advice like . . .
1) Initiate conversations. In a room, force yourself to have 3 or more conversations, if only for a minute or two.
2) Don’t talk toward an objective; rather, be flexible and go toward the places where the other person wishes to go.
3) Make each person feel individually valuable.
4) How you say something, in demeanor and body language, is as important as what you say
All those ideas seem worthwhile. But I should explain more specifically that I am not searching for ways to have more casual conversations. I am not shy. I have an ability to “work a room,” be clever, and make people laugh and feel genuinely good about themselves. Rather, I want to know how to maintain conversations that people want to continue for years to come, maybe even for the rest of our lives. That seems like a scholarly pursuit worth searching through the dustiest of books in the most unused portions of ancient libraries.
Here are some of the best ideas I have on this unending journey and search so far:
For a conversation to continue a long time, it helps when . . .
I) The other person knows you sincerely perceive they are “more than good enough.”
II) The other person knows the conversations will be pleasing more often than not.
III) The other person understands the benefits of the conversations will manifest both in the long-term and short-term.
IV) The other person has received regularly supported and consistent feedback that the conversations will lead to their continued well-being.
V) The other person has a reasonable expectation they will learn things they will not discover elsewhere.
To keep a conversation ongoing, it often doesn’t matter how intelligent, clever, funny, or attractive you are. Those characteristics, in some cases, may add value, but they may not be key or essential
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